It'd be easier if I really could just be Mrs. Jeter

I've had a good Saturday, so far. I took my "little sister" to a community carnival and when I picked her up, she said, "did you get skinnier from last week? You're like this big skinny person." And then when I got to the carnival, I ran into a friend I haven't seen in about a month and she said, "you're like melting away." Okay, so yesterday I was frustrated because I am still hovering right between 30 and 35 pounds and I only lost about a half pound in the last week -- and I know that muscle weighs more than fat and I've been working out a lot. I guess other people noticing has helped my mood and keeps me motivated.

On the e-harmony front, I haven't heard back from Tim and of course I am now second-guessing my answers, or my lists and wondering if he thinks I'm shallow. Am I shallow? I don't think so. I also have been given about five or six other matches -- none of whom have answered my first set of questions. So what seemed so promising at the beginning is starting to be exactly as I remember my last experience.

Here are Tim's must haves and can't stands:

Must Haves:
Sense of Humor... I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.
Family... I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children.
Shared Interests... I must have someone who is willing to share my interests and passions.
Personal Habits... I must have a partner who maintains high standards of personal hygiene, orderliness, and other personal habits.
Passionate... I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion andunderstanding.
Self-Confident... I must have a partner who knows and believes in himself/herself throughout life'sups and downs.
Communicator... I must have someone who is good at talking and listening.
Adaptability... I must have a partner who is able to adapt to life's surprises.
Exciting... I must have someone who isn't afraid to take a risk and who sees life as an adventure.
Patience... I must have someone who can handle life's frustrations or momentary setbacks with apatient, steady, demeanor.

Can't Stands:
Worrier... I can't stand someone who easily loses perspective and constantly worries.
Lying... I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.
Petty... I can't stand someone who focuses on imperfection.
Extremely Shy... I can't stand someone who is so shy that they cannot open up and share with me.
Poor Hygiene... I can't stand someone who is not clean.
Cheating... I can't stand someone who takes advantage of people.
Undependable... I can't stand someone who fails to come through and is unreliable.
Addictions... I can't stand someone who currently suffers from addictions.
Infidelity... I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
Denial... I can't stand someone who is unable to accept blame or see fault in their own actions.

And mine:

My must haves:
Family Life... I must have a partner who is committed to marriage, home, and family.
Family... I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children.
Passionate... I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion andunderstanding.
Responsible... My partner must be financially responsible.
Attractiveness... I must have a partner who is considered "very attractive" by most current standards.
Sociability... I must have a partner who loves to socialize with lots of different people.
Affectionate... I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.
Kindness... I must have a partner who is gentle and kind.
Strong Character... I must have a partner who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.
Chemistry... I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.

My can't stands:
Fiscally Irresponsible... I can't stand someone who is incapable of managing their money.
Anger... I can't stand someone who can't manage their anger, who yells, or bottles it up inside.
Rude... I can't stand someone who is belittling, impatient or hateful to people in anysituation.
Recklessness... I can't stand someone who has a careless and irresponsible manner when with others.
Poor Hygiene... I can't stand someone who is not clean.
Racist... I can't stand someone who believes that any particular ethnic group to which theybelong is superior to the rest of humanity.
Cheating... I can't stand someone who takes advantage of people.
Excessive Overweight... I can't stand someone who is overweight.
Infidelity... I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
Victim Mentality... While everyone has times of self-pity, I can't stand someone who continually seeshimself/herself as a victim.